One of the better resources in counseling outside of the Scripture and Westminster (see other posts) is the book Peacemaker by Ken Sande. Over time I will be sharing with you many of the jewels of this book but let me just share a few reasons why this is such an important tool in your counseling belt.
1) The book addresses the issue of conflict first from 40,000 feet. That is, it doesn’t just jump in and say “here’s how you fix it.” Rather, it begins with the big categories of glorifying God and sovereignty among others.
2) It is thorough. I never thought peacemaking involved so much preparation, thought, wisdom, and humility. But if you really want to reconcile with someone this book is your go-to book. It will help you address all the issues and address them thoroughly.
3) It is extremely practical. The steps in each chapter are concrete and helpful. It is not nebulous ‘go work it out with them’ advice, but rather specific instructions and wisdom so that you have a clear idea of what you need to do and how to do it.
4) It is Biblical. There are Scriptures throughout the book. Sande is a member of the PCA and so brings a reformed perspective to the topic.
I hope this whets your appetite if you haven’t read the book. There are others versions for kids and families but I’d recommend for now just sticking with the original.
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